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5 Hot tips every women must try!


The women world is actually tough! We may have applied numerous beauty tips to look beautiful, spent thousands of rupees to buy those expensive beauty products; also joined yoga or salsa classes to maintain our figure. But have we been able to live up to our expectations? No! If you really are in a need of better piece of advice, try these things out! It gives you 100% guaranteed results!(Warning: The results may be extremely positive!)
For the curves to die for:
How about a little social service? Share your piece of bread to the hungry little boy; he probably is in better need of the food than you!
For sexy, shimmering looks:
Observe & inspire yourself with all the good things in the world. Eyes reflect a woman’s soul. Let the world recognize this woman’s enforcing passion.
For a good posture:
Never walk alone. Here, I don’t mean your tall, handsome, masculine boyfriend with a loaded wallet; walk with all you have within, your knowledge and intrinsic gifted qualities.
For that divalicious’ outfits:
Open up our wardrobe and offer some of your lengthy outdated outfits to the young girl that’s helping in your house; despite child labor being illegal in Nepal! Coz’ girls….the latest fashion trend that’s in hot parties in Nepal (although it’s winter!), is to show your skin!
For a beautiful “you”:
A woman’s beauty is not just about the curves, style, facial mode or sex appeal; the beauty lies in all of us. So, let’s reveal the beautiful “us” inside. Let’s celebrate womanhood!
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June 6, 2009 Posted by | Life, Life Style, Sex, Sex Life | Leave a comment

Men’s Sex Secret


When you first start dating a guy, it makes sense that he would conceal stuff he’s not particularly proud of—his disorderly apartment, his hairy back, his mother’s daily phone calls. But by the time you’re a serious couple—maybe even living together—you probably assume you know your bedmate’s every last habit, flaw, and idiosyncrasy. Don’t be so sure.

According to new research published in The Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, one in 10 men are harboring a serious sexual secret. “There are two kinds of secrets guys keep,” says Les Parrott, author of Crazy Good Sex. “Things they wish their wives or girlfriends would understand but are scared they won’t, and things they’re just plain trying to get away with.”

With that in mind, we polled hundreds of men to learn what they hide at each stage in a relationship and enlisted experts to offer their insights. We discovered there’s a decent chance your man is keeping at least one dirty secret. Read on to find out what, if anything, you should do about it.

When You’re Dating…

What he’s hiding: The number of women he’s had sex with

Some men exaggerate to sound more sexually experienced; others lowball so you don’t dismiss them as players. “Men know that if they confess to a large number of partners, it sends the message that they’re unlikely to commit to one. That is, to you,” says David Buss, a professor of psychology at the University of Texas at Austin and author of The Evolution of Desire.

What you should do Take him at his word, but protect yourself. Be vigilant about using a condom every time you have sex—at least until you’ve both been tested for STDs and you feel secure that you’re in a committed relationship. If you do somehow discover that he’s deceived you about his sexual history, get it out in the open, but give him a chance to explain. “He could have fibbed out of embarrassment, insecurity, or sincere interest in you,” says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman.

What he’s hiding: He looks at porn—maybe a lot

According to a study at Brigham Young University, 87 percent of men have looked at some form of porn in the past year, and one in five help themselves to X-rated fare daily. Men like to look at naked chicks—no surprise there—but what is shocking is how quickly they can become dependent on those erotic images. A powerful pleasure cocktail of endorphins and epinephrine (hormones responsible for arousal and alertness) are released while a man watches porn, Parrott says. And that feeling can become addictive.

What you should do Occasional porn isn’t the problem; it only becomes a wrecking ball when it starts to intrude on your sex life together. “The two big questions are ‘Is it interfering with your life and relationship?’ and ‘Is he using it to avoid something?'” says sex therapist Sandor Gardos, Ph.D. If he actively hides his material and makes excuses to avoid having sex, be concerned.

Broach the subject when you’re calm and rational. “Angry accusations never go over well,” Gardos says. Another tactic: Suggest watching together. “It becomes compulsive when he feels like he has to hide it,” he says. So if you’re willing to share it with him, you’ll take the compulsion out of the equation. Plus, experts say, viewing erotic images together can enhance your sex life.

What he’s hiding: He compares you to his last girlfriend

It’s true: Your guy whips out his ex ruler and measures everything about you: your looks, your bedroom abilities, how well you get along with his friends. But that’s not necessarily a bad thing. “It’s normal to make comparisons, and an ex is his most recent reference point,” says Christopher Blazina, Ph.D., associate professor of psychology at Tennessee State University.

What you should do Nothing. He’ll inevitably come to the conclusion that you blow away anyone else he’s ever been with, and the silent comparathon raging in his mind will cease. When you should do something: if he frequently blurts out things like “My ex always…” or “My last girlfriend never…” It’s not necessarily a sign that he hasn’t gotten over her, but it can still be hurtful, Blazina says. When that happens, it’s fair to tell him, for example, that you don’t want him bringing up the details of their trip to Mexico. Chances are, he’s not even aware he’s been doing it and will be happy to stop.

June 3, 2009 Posted by | Sex Life | Leave a comment

21 Ways to Say “I Love You” (Without Saying a Word)


You already know it’s important for you and your guy to tell each other “I love you” — as often as possible. But you shouldn’t depend on those three little words to let your one-and-only know what’s in your heart. In fact, nonverbal displays of affection are often a better way to get through to the man in your life. “Guys tend to be action-oriented, so they feel less comfortable using words to express emotions,” says REDBOOK Love Network expert and psychiatrist Scott Haltzman, M.D., author of The Secrets of Happily Married Men. “They’ve seen enough Tom Hanks movies to know they’re supposed to always say ‘I love you,’ but they’re not sure that words alone convey how they feel.”

Ready to let what you do speak louder than what you say? We asked REDBOOK readers and the men in their lives to share some sweet ideas. Plus, we added in some expert tips on how to give your love a boost without uttering a word.

“Sometimes I ‘write’ a love message on my husband’s breakfast toast. Using cookie cutters, especially my Valentine’s Day set of hearts, I press one lightly into a slice of bread, just hard enough to imprint it, then I toast it. It never fails to bring a smile to his face.” —Anita Crehan, Mason, NH

ROMANCE, REVISITED

“Every now and then I leave a card saying how much I love and appreciate him under his pillow for him to find before he goes to sleep.” —Cim Collins, Springfield, IL

“My wife, Leigh Anne, sometimes has to travel for work, and when she gets home, I give her a small gift for every day she has been gone. I’ll set them on the kitchen table and wait for her to notice them — things like her favorite perfume, fresh flowers, or a cool piece of handmade jewelry. I love to spoil her!” —John Montgomery, Birmingham, AL

“I place special little love notes, cartoons, jokes, or small articles — sometimes racy ones — in her underwear drawer. She never knows what to expect next. She gets a big kick out of them and knows it is my way of saying I love her.” —Joe Cirillo Jr., Englewood, FL

“When I take a shower at night, I write messages on the fogged-up mirrors so they appear when he takes a shower in the morning before he goes to work.” —Jackie Peirce, Oley, PA

MAKE LIFE A LITTLE EASIER

“My husband puts toothpaste on my toothbrush and leaves it lying on the sink for me every night before bed. He is the sweetest husband ever!” —Lisa Wilkes-North, Heath, TX

“I scour the TV listings for his favorite movies or a sporting event that I know he’d love to watch. I TiVo it without telling him, then surprise him with it on Saturday morning. Bonus: While he’s on the couch, I’ve just bought myself some me-time. Manicure, pedicure, here I come!” —Cindy Panowicz, Grand Island, NE

“Before my husband leaves for work, he sets the table for my breakfast. He lays out a bowl for cereal, a cup for orange juice, strawberries, a napkin, and a spoon. For a big, manly union guy, this is a really major step!” —Patricia Armstrong, Danvers, MA

“I love that my husband gets up every morning when I do. His job doesn’t start till 9, so he could easily sleep later than me, but he doesn’t. While I get ready, he gets our three kids dressed and loads them into the van with their backpacks. To me, this is one of the best ways he can say he loves us all.” —Jeanette Dominguez, El Paso, TX

SHOW YOUR APPRECIATION

“We brag about each other when we’re out with our friends — even if it’s about something little, like, ‘Oh, Barry had the best idea the other day’ or ‘Barry fixed the whatsit that’s been leaking!'” —Jennifer Starr, Columbus, OH

“For Christmas, I bought a dictionary and went through it, highlighting all the definitions that describe him or remind me of him.” —Jaynee Germond, Roseburg, OR

“Every morning before I get up, he leaves two folded towels in the bathroom for me for when I take a shower — one big towel for my body and a smaller towel for my head.” —Amy Rossi-Espagnet, Atlanta

• EXPERT CHALLENGE: SHOW HIM YOUR GRATITUDE WITH A BEAR HUG
“The number one complaint I hear from guys is they feel like they don’t get rewarded for the things they do, only told what they didn’t do. Next time your man takes out the trash without being asked or starts the coffee pot for you in the morning, reward him with a 30-second full-body hug. Guys are so physical — it’s easy and teasy.” —Toni Coleman

HIGH-SPEED SIGNS OF DEVOTION

“I changed the banner on his cell phone to read ‘I Love You’ when he wasn’t looking!” —Becky White, Newton, AL

“My husband and I send each other short e-mails to say what we are thinking about at that very moment. Once, he wrote me, ‘The new Brad Paisley song makes me think of you.’ Now every time I hear it on the radio, I’m reminded how much my husband loves me.” —Michelle Magnetti, Colorado Springs, CO
“My husband gets up at 5:30 a.m., but he pulls his dresser drawers open the night before so the noise of them opening and closing won’t disturb me. Now, that’s love!” —Connie Maynord, Bastrop, TX

SEND A SECRET MESSAGE

• EXPERT CHALLENGE: POINT THE WAY
“Here’s a suggestive sign he can’t miss: Leave a trail of Post-it notes in the hallway with arrows on them leading all the way to the bedroom.” —Joyce Morley-Ball, Atlanta psychotherapist and author of Seeds for the Harvest of a Lifetime.

“Every time we kiss, we do it three times, which stands for ‘I love you.’ When my husband pulls out of the driveway in the morning, I stand at the door while he sets off the emergency light on his truck, also three times for ‘I love you.'” —Peggy Clayton, Dubuque, IA

June 1, 2009 Posted by | Happy Life, Marriage Life, Sex, Sex Life | Leave a comment

What Men Still Don’t Understand


We got guys to reveal the intimate, embarrassing, surprising things they really want to know about how to make sex with you better, sweeter, hotter. Here, the good news you can both use.

As far as sex goes, we men have only two questions. They sum up every curiosity we’ve ever had, every mystery we’ve yearned to unravel.

1. Now?
2. Why not now?

Well, those are the only official questions. Unofficially, there are a few others we’d like to ask, some that pertain to certain puzzles that have nagged at us since time commenced. Just don’t expect to hear them aloud, because there’s little chance that we’ll ask you the sex questions that we really want answers to. You might freak out. Or dial 911. Or, worst of all, you might discover how clueless we are.

So just what are men’s most burning bedroom riddles? Here — according to sex therapists and an unofficial poll of dozens of men who participated in this story only under a veil of secrecy — are the questions that are likely simmering in your guy’s head right now. Plus, you’ll find some tips on how you can help him learn the answers in the least humiliating way possible.

1. “She loves foreplay. My repertoire is a little limited and, honestly, foreplay’s not my favorite part of sex. Any new tricks I can surprise her with?”

If men tend to rush through foreplay, it’s because we — to put it mildly — don’t see it the same way you do. We’re ready for sex the moment we have an erection. Delaying intercourse when we have an erection and a willing woman nearby? That’s idiotic, according to our biological wiring. Look, we may have only so many potent hours in our lifetime. Asking us to waste even a precious few minutes on foreplay doesn’t jibe with our evolutionary programming.

To us, foreplay has only one purpose: to get you craving penetration as quickly as possible, by warming you up and helping you lubricate. To make that happen, we may touch you the way we like to be touched sexually — i.e., we make a rush for the genitals. “Women usually enjoy the lightest, feathery, teasing touch in areas that men don’t necessarily think of as erotic, such as the face, hair, neck, and the sides of her body,” says sex therapist Aline P. Zoldbrod, Ph.D., author of Sex Talk: Uncensored Exercises for Exploring What Really Turns You On. “Because men often don’t like to be touched like this, they don’t think to touch their partners like this.”

If you really want your guy to love foreplay and get creative with it, stop calling it “foreplay” and start calling it “building anticipation.” “Men want to be playful,” says Scott Haltzman, M.D., a clinical assistant professor at Brown University in Providence and author of The Secrets of Happily Married Men. As long as we know that sex is coming eventually, making a game out of getting there can create a mind-blowing urgency — one that will soon make sex without foreplay seem dull by comparison. Two ideas to build on:

Set a timer, and tell him he’s not allowed to take off his pants for 15 minutes. “It’ll force him to become more creative,” says Haltzman, “and it has all the buildup.”

Use sex candies. Or whipped cream. Bait the areas of your body where you want more attention — all the places he misses when going in for the kill. React passionately, and you’ll soon make him a foreplay connoisseur — without uttering one (intelligible) word.

2. “She can only climax when I give her oral sex. Is this normal?”

It’s not that guys feel inadequate, mind you. It’s just that we like to see all of the effort and grit of intercourse culminate into something more than, well, you lovingly waiting to get yours. Our intentions are noble; it’s our understanding of anatomy and female arousal that’s lacking. “Men often think that intercourse triggers orgasm for women,” says Sallie Foley, a marital and sexual therapist at the University of Michigan in Ann Arbor and author of Sex Matters for Women. “Actually, most women need direct stimulation of their clitoris in order to have an orgasm.” Few guys know that almost half of women don’t come during intercourse, so if you don’t, we may think we’re doing something wrong.

The cure for this is a little knowledge. “When couples find out this is completely normal, it takes all the pressure off,” says Foley. Experiment with positions that may give your clitoris more sensation, and use a vibrator or your fingers (or have him caress you) during sex.

3. “When I’m tired or just don’t have my A-game working, I don’t know if she wants me to keep going till she comes, or give up. Should I keep soldiering on or can I tell her I want to stop?”

If you can’t imagine why he couldn’t just say, “I’ve had it — can we pick this up again tomorrow?” you’ve clearly never been a man. Quitting mid-game just because you’re losing is a real weanie move. So when you sense that he’s been pistoning on sheer willpower, cut him a face-saving break. Change the rhythm. Kiss your guy and say, “Let’s stop just a minute — I want to put on some music,” suggests Haltzman. Looking through CDs will break his “must please her” trance and mercifully let him collapse on the mattress. When you climb back into bed, stroke his chest or his back. He’ll already be asleep.

4. “Our lovemaking’s become routine. How can I get her to consider something new without having her freak out?”

He’s smart to be wondering about this, and it should be on your mind, too. “Routines are dangerous to sexual relationships because they can mean you’ve stopped paying attention,” says Russell J. Stambaugh, Ph.D., a sex therapist in Ann Arbor, MI. “Arousal and desire are all about attention.”

We have countless common sexual fantasies, but those that involve you — our steady partner, and a woman who knows where we live — comprise a much shorter list. “The number one thing that guys want to try is anal sex,” says Haltzman. If you’re flatly not into it, tell him you’d like to have more sex in the doggie-style position, Haltzman suggests. A simulation is better than a total rejection.

Among the other wishes men cite repeatedly: more oral sex, bondage or S&M play, having you dress provocatively for us and do a striptease, and threesomes. Some couples might discuss these ditties as casually as they would a grocery list. You and your guy aren’t among them? Then be compassionate if he suggests something that you’re not down with.

Chiefly, restrain from laughing and saying, “When hell freezes!” “He’s putting himself on the line by asking this and probably feels pretty anxious,” says Haltzman. You want to convey that you take his sick, perverse needs seriously. The winning response: “Let’s think of something that can be just as exciting that I’m into, too.”

And remember, we might crave the kinky stuff, but almost anything new — a different perfume, a tight-fitting tee — can add a jolt when we’re in a rut. We’re pretty easy to please.

5. “What is the most expert way to hit her alleged G-spot?”

The G-spot has been the best and worst thing ever to happen to men. It’s incredibly empowering to think there’s a magic button we can push to make you blow through the gates of ecstasy. And it’s infuriating and humiliating when we can’t find this damned button or make it work.

A secret: As long as you come, we’re happy. It’s when you can’t come — or when we decide that we must do some experimenting, perhaps with your encouragement — that we begin looking for that mystical button-size zone on your upper vaginal wall. Every literate man in America over 25 has read the directions on G-spot stimulation at least 30 times: When you’re fully aroused, he’ll put his finger inside you, press up toward your navel, and lightly stroke you back and forth in a “come hither” fashion.

And then you’ll explode like an H-bomb.

Right?

Not necessarily. Just as many women won’t orgasm from intercourse alone, many women don’t respond to G-spot stimulation, says Zoldbrod. If it does nothing for you, show us what does put you over the top. Rest assured, we’ll happily do whatever works.

6. “She doesn’t want me to go down on her if she hasn’t showered immediately beforehand, even though I tell her that it’s not necessary. Why is she so self-conscious?”

Guys are not bashful about receiving oral sex, so when a woman is reluctant to receive it, we can’t relate. We did learn during our dating days, however, that women fall into three camps regarding cunnilingus: They either love it, accept it but wish we’d stop, or close the gates of Oz and say, “No way, no how.” Occasionally even a fervent female fan will decline. “I didn’t know I’d be exposed tonight,” one lover shyly said to me, perhaps because it had been 72 hours since she waxed.

To date, I have never said that while holding up my boxers.

If you see your guy’s head traveling downward, consider any fears about your odors or tastes to be unfounded. Interestingly, your scents likely seem stronger and more unpleasant to you than they do to him, because you have a keener sense of smell (perhaps to prevent you from eating something poisonous while pregnant, scientists speculate). How much keener? A study of 50 subjects conducted by researchers at the State University of New York at Albany found that 19 out of 32 women could identify the scent of their own underarm odors (on gauze pads worn overnight, if you must know), while only one of 18 men could identify their own odor. And women rated their own scents and those of other females as more unpleasant than males did. So we detect aromas differently, which was probably apparent to you the first time you set foot in our apartment.

So let him be spontaneous, won’t you?

If no amount of logic will make you comfortable, then shower together first, says Zoldbrod. All you need to say: “Honey, I know you love how I taste, but this will let me have a great orgasm with no distractions.”

7. “I love it when she initiates sex. How can I get her to do it more often?”

Men have wanted this since the Neolithic period. But unfortunately, even after all these years, we still don’t always recognize it when it’s happening. “His idea of her initiating sex might mean her prancing into the room in a negligee, and her idea may be giving him an extra-long kiss when he comes home,” says Stambaugh. If he doesn’t take the bait, even because he’s had a stressful day at work, you may feel rejected and decide that you’ll leave the initiating to him.

This miscommunication illustrates a common problem. Women expect men to intuit things from obvious hints — such as “those earrings would look great with my new dress” — and then become frustrated when guys miss the message. “With men, you need to be explicit,” says Haltzman. Look him in the eye (or send him a text message) and say, “Would you like to make love tonight?” Or be more playful and say, “How about a roll in the hay, soldier?” Either will thrill him. If you want to devise a subtler sign (such as, say, asking him to shave before bed), tell him what the code means the first time — and don’t flip out when he forgets it the fifth time.

8. “I think I know when she’s had an orgasm, but there’s always the chance that she’s faking. How can I tell that she had a real one?”

To us, making you orgasm is like seeing the golf ball fall into the cup. Until that happens, it ain’t over. We just keep on stroking and hope things don’t get too embarrassing. And hope we have the energy to do it 17 more times.

The catch: The damned ball is invisible, and only you know if we nailed the cup.

The gravest, most unsporting insult you can give a man is to let him win out of pity, and the fear that you’re doing just that — by faking your orgasm — may creep into his brain if he’s the paranoid sort. Or if you’ve given him reason to suspect you of faking in the past.

Men’s magazines will tell us to look for orgasm clues like flushing and vaginal contractions, which strengthens the troubling notion that we need to be detectives. (And it becomes even more disheartening when we learn those can be faked, too.)

You can kill all of this anxiety by uttering three words: “I didn’t come.”

Say this, and then show us what to do to make it happen. Then we’ll know and trust that you’ll speak up when you don’t get yours. We’ll know you play fair. And we won’t worry about it again.

Finally, educate us by saying another short sentence, if it’s true in your case. Tell your guy, “I don’t always need to come to have great sex with you.”

“Highly sexually satisfied couples can take turns pleasing each other,” says Stambaugh. You both don’t always have to reach the peak to make the trip worthwhile, and couples learn that in time. A great script to use, says Haltzman: “It’s an incredibly powerful feeling for me to see you having fun in bed, and you trying to give me an orgasm is just going to get in the way of it.”

Even if that’s a lie, it’s so sexy, we won’t care.

9. “How can I make my erection last longer for her?”

“Guys often joke that when they’re in their early 20s, their erections are so firm that they could hang a towel on them,” says Foley. (This frightens guests who enter the bathroom, however.) Of course, as a guy ages, what once held up a wet bath towel at 70 degrees may now only support a washcloth parallel to the ground.

We don’t greet this change happily.

“Men often buy into the male myth about how they should be performing,” says Zoldbrod. If your guy is distracted during sex by thinking about his erection, he’ll probably lose it. Learning that it’s normal for his erection to wax and wane while he’s making love can help a great deal. Sure, in his 20s, his erection stayed hard even when he wasn’t being fondled. But now, if he’s getting no touch, there’s a natural “relaxation” until he becomes aroused again. Men need to know that they can ask for stimulation to stay hard, Zoldbrod says. (For your part, remember to include his inner thigh and perineum — the sensitive region under his testicles — as well as the penis.) And if he’s unable to have an erection at all, consult a doctor. Many curable or treatable conditions could be to blame. If he’s overweight or has high blood pressure or diabetes, you may have found your culprit.

10. “Sex once a week is plenty for her, but not for me. Can I do anything about it besides hinting and pleading?”

We know that a dip in sex drive after marriage is normal in women. We heard the jokes at bachelor parties, and married life has confirmed the rumor. So has science; a British survey of more than 11,000 men and women ages 18 to 64 found that women had a decline in sexual desire after about three years of marriage, and in their 30s and 40s, many had sex drives that were lower than the men their ages had. Women with small children were more likely to report problems.

What’s behind the dip? Researchers attribute it to women’s decreasing testosterone levels; men have 10 times as much of the sex hormone as women do, so to expect that we’d all have the same level of desire is ludicrous. Life pressures weigh women down, too. “Women in their mid- to late 30s tend to have way too much on their plates,” says Zoldbrod. Mix a demanding job with kids, and sleep becomes more indulgent than sex.

We get that. And many of us have no problem with it.

“My research has found that about 75 percent of men had stronger sex drives than their wives, but a significant percentage — more than a third — were comfortable with that,” says Haltzman. Those who were okay with it tended to be older (starting in their late 30s), and to feel satisfied in their marriages overall, he explains. “Studies show that in a good marriage, sex only accounts for about 20 percent of what people say makes it good,” Haltzman adds. So if the marriage is great, and you want sex once a week while we’d prefer it thrice, we probably don’t care — as long as we’re getting enough between-the-sheets time to feel like we have a loving partner.

If your guy isn’t happy with the boot-knocking frequency — a hint would be that you’ve turned down his last three overtures — bring this up and negotiate. “Men’s sex drive is more than just a biological need, it’s a drive to connect emotionally,” explains Haltzman. And you, our beloved partner, are the one holding the key.

June 1, 2009 Posted by | Marriage Life, Sex Life | Leave a comment

बढ्दै छन् यौनरोगी


समाज जति नै उदार बन्दै आए पनि यौन-समस्याका बारेमा भने हत्तपत्त मान्छेहरू खुल्दैनन् । नेपालमा २० देखि ३० प्रतिशत वयस्कहरूमा कुनै न कुनै प्रकारको यौन-समस्या रहेको अनुसन्धानहरूले देखाएका छन् । वीर अस्पतालका वरिष्ठ छालारोग विशेषज्ञ डा. भास्करमोहन कायस्थका अनुसार ६० वर्ष कटेका ४० प्रतिशत पुरुषमा यौन-दुर्बलता हुन्छ । उपचारका लागि अस्पताल धाउने पुरुषमध्ये धेरैमा यौन-उत्तेजना कमी हुने समस्या देखिन्छ । ँउनीहरूमा यौन-इच्छा त हुन्छ, तर उत्तेजना नै नहुने समस्या पाइएको छ,’ कायस्थले भने ।

त्यस्तै शिक्षण अस्पतालमा कार्यरत वरिष्ठ छाला तथा यौनरोग विशेषज्ञ तथा उपप्राध्यापक डा. रीता श्रेष्ठले पनि यौन-दुर्बलताको समस्या लिएर आउने बिरामीको संख्या बढ्दो रहेको बताइन् । डा. रीता भन्छिन्, ँअध्ययनहरूले यौनरोगी बढ्दै गएको देखाएका छन् ।’ उनका अनुसार उपचारका लागि अस्पताल धाउने यस्ता रोगीहरूको संख्या निकै बढेको छ ।

वृद्ध-वृद्धा मात्र होइन, यौन-दुर्बलताको समस्या भएका युवा पनि प्रशस्तै छन् । बढ्दो बेरोजगारी, पढाइको चिन्ता, बिग्रँदो आर्थिक अवस्था, प्रेममा असफलता, नैराश्यजस्ता समस्या भएका युवामा यौन-दुर्बलता बढी देखिएको चिकित्सकहरू दाबी गर्छन् । त्यस्तै, असुरक्षित यौन-सम्पर्क गर्ने युवामा पनि रोगको संक्रमण भयो कि भन्ने भयका कारण यौन-दुर्बलताको समस्या देखिने गरेको डा. कायस्थको अनुभव छ । ँकतिपयले त समस्या छैन भन्दा पनि पत्याउँदैनन् । रगतलगायत सबै परीक्षण गरेपछि मात्र ढुक्क हुन्छन्,’ डा. कायस्थ भन्छन् । वेश्यालयमा गएर यौनकर्मी महिलासँगको यौनक्रीडापछि यौनजन्य रोग लागेर सामान्य वा गम्भीर समस्यामा परेर आउने यौनरोगीमध्ये ३० वर्षभन्दा कम उमेर समूहका युवा पनि छन् ।

यौन-सम्पर्क र यौनसुख मानसिक सन्तुष्टिसँग जोडिएको विषय मानिन्छ । वीर अस्पतालको यौन तथा चर्मरोग विभागका वरिष्ठ यौनरोग विशेषज्ञ डा. केशरमान मल्लका अनुसार यौन-समस्या भएकाहरू आधा पनि चिकित्सकसम्म पुग्दैनन् । उनी भन्छन्, ँहामीकहाँ यौनरोग लागिहाले पनि हत्तपत्त चिकित्सककहाँ पुग्ने बिरामी निकै कम मात्र भेटिन्छन् । लज्जा वा सामाजिक अपहेलनाको डरले अधिकांश रोगीले रोग लुकाउने गरेका छन् ।’

डा. मल्लका अनुसार धेरै यौन-उत्तेजना नहुने समस्या महिला र पुरुषमा समान रूपमा हुने भए पनि अस्पताल आउने महिलाको संख्या निकै कम रहेको पाइन्छ । उनी भन्छन्, ँयौन दुर्बलता पुरुषमा मात्र देखिने समस्या होइन, यो त महिलामा पनि भेटिन्छ । तर, सामाजिक कारण वा लाजले गर्दा महिलाहरू आफ्नो समस्या लुकाएरै गुम्सिरहेका हुन्छन् ।’

यौनरोगीहरू अन्तिम अवस्थामा मात्र डाक्टरकोमा पुग्छन्, सकेसम्म मेडिकलतिरबाट औषधि गरेर निको हुने प्रयास गर्छन् । यौनांगमा घाउ भएका, मुसा वा खटिरा आएका र पीप बगेका धेरै बिरामी पनि अस्पताल धाउने गरेका छन् । ँपिसाब पोल्ने, यौन-सम्पर्क गर्दा यौनांग पोल्ने, गोनोरिया, हर्पिजजस्ता रोग लागेका बिरामी बढी छन्,’ डा. श्रेष्ठ जानकारी दिन्छन्, ँपुरुषका तुलनामा महिलामा यौनरोगका लक्षण ढिलो देखापर्छन् ।’

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