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अंग्रेजी नजानी America आउन हुन्छ ?


मेरो एक जना साथी छ। देशमा भन्दा विदेशमा गएर केही गरेर फर्कौँ भन्ने सोच छ उसको। एसएलसी पास छ। अंग्रेजी त्यति बोल्न आउँदैन। आजको कान्तिपुर दैनिकमा छापिएको एउटा विज्ञापन हेरेपछि ऊ अमेरिका जाने सपना देख्‍न थालेको छ। विज्ञापन रहेछ काठमाडौँ मुख्य कार्यालय रहेको एउटा एजुकेसनल कन्सलटेन्सीको। अमेरिकाको Virgina International University मा २, ३, ४ र ८ हप्ताका विभिन्न विषयमा सेमिनार, तालिम, वर्कसपमा सहभागी हुन इच्छुकहरुबाट आवेदन मागिएको रहेछ। यहाँ पोखरामा पनि एउटा सम्पर्क कार्यालय रहेछ। योग्यता तोकिएको छैन। TOEFL, IELTS पनि गर्नु पर्दैन रे। इंग्लिस नआए युनिभर्सिटी आफैले ट्रान्सलेटर राखिदिनेछ रे। त्यो विवरण पढेर मलाई अलि शंका लाग्यो। र, तपाईँहरुसित सुझाव माग्न यो लेखेको हुँ। तपाईँहरु जो अमेरिकामा हुनुहुन्छ, वा हुनसक्छ सोही युनिभर्सिटीमा पढिरहनुभएको छ. कृपया सल्लाह दिनुस्, मेरो साथीलाई। उसले के गर्दा ठीक होला ? अनि यो तालिम भनेको केको तालिम होला ?

August 22, 2009 Posted by | Uncategorized | Leave a comment

कति निर्दयी कार चालक


काठमाडौँको वीर अस्पतालनजिकैको भोटाहिटी सब वे नजिकैको सडक पेटीमा हिँडिरहेका ६ जनालाई गएराति पौने १ बजे प्रतिष्ठित परिवारका सदस्यले कारले किचेर सामूहिक हत्या गरिदिएका छन्।

निर्दयी कार चालकले किचेर मारेकाहरुमा भारत सितामणि घर भई हाल वाङ्गेमुढा बस्ने बर्ष २९ को मदन गुप्ता भारत कसवा नेन्सी घर भएको बर्ष ५० को धर्मराज सिन्हा भारत सितामणि घर भई हाल बाङ्गेमुढा बस्ने बर्ष १५ को संजिब गुप्ता भारत मोतीहारी घर भई हाल कमलाक्षी बस्ने बर्ष ४६ की विना सिंह भारत सितामणि घर भई हाल कमलाक्षी बस्ने बर्ष ४० की कृष्ण देवी र तत्काल नामथर नखुलेको वर्ष १८ को पुरुष रहेको छ। भारत सितामणि घर भई हाल बाङ्गेमुढा बस्ने बर्ष २८ को दिपक गुप्ताको स्थिति गम्भीर छ।

हत्यामा संलग्न नयाँ सडक बस्ने शान्तिमान सिंह भन्ने व्यक्तिको छोरा भएको बुझिएको छ। स्थानीय बासिन्दाले शान्तिमान भन्ने नेपाल प्रहरीको डिआईजी भएको बताए पनि त्यसको एकिन भने हुन सकेको छैन। हत्यामा संलग्नहरुलाई नेपाल प्रहरीले राति नै भगाएको छ भने गाडी मात्रै पक्राउ गरि बग्गीखानामा पुर्याइएको बुझिएको छ।

यता, हत्या अत्यन्तै विभत्स मात्रै होइन, क्रुर तरिकाले भएपनि प्रहरीले राति नै रानीपोखरीको पानी निकालेर सडक सफा गरेको छ। प्रत्यक्षदर्शीका अनुसार मंगलबार अपरान्ह चार बजेतिर भारत घर भई हाल काठमाडौंको जमल आसपासका क्षेत्रमा सडक किनारामा फुटपाथमा व्यापार गर्ने एक व्यक्तिको बालकलाई वीर अस्पतालमा भर्ना गरिएको थियो। वीर अस्पतालले राति ११ बजे डिस्चार्ज गरिदिएपछि विरामी र विरामी कुरुवा लिन परिवार नै गएका थिए। फर्कँदै गर्दा सब वेको ठीक अगाडि सडक किनारामा बा ४ च ८०३० नम्बरको कारले ठक्कर दियो। त्यसपछि चिच्याहटका बीचमार उक्त कार पुन व्याक गरेर अन्यलाई पनि किचेर हत्या गरियो। यतिसम्म कि रेलिङ चढेर सव वेको गेटमा पुगिसकेकालाई समेत रेलिङ भाँचेर पेटीमा गाडी उकालेर हत्या गरियो। घटनामा दुई जना भने बाँच्न सफल भएका छन्। जम्मा नौ जनाको समुहमा आएका सात जनाको हत्या भएको छ। छ जनाको शव वीर अस्पतालमा राखिएको छ भने १ जनालाई थप उपचारको क्रममा नर्भिक अस्पतालमा नै मृत्यु भएको थियो।

विहान ८:४५ सम्म वीर अस्पतालमा आसपासमा सयौँ मानिस भेला भइसकेका छन् भने नेकपा माओवादीका नेवा राज्यसमितिका इन्चार्ज हितमान शाक्यले घटनास्थल तथा शवको अवलोकन गरी फर्केका छन्। हत्याको विरोधमा राष्ट्रको सीमालाई छोडेर उपस्थित सबै नेपाली आक्रोसित बनेका छन्। रातिदेखि नै भोटाहिटी, वीरअस्पताल, नयाँ सडकमा प्रदर्शन गरिएको छ। प्रहरीले घटनामा संलग्न बा ४ च ८०३० नम्बरको कारलाई नियन्त्रणमा लिएको छ।

यता, हत्याकाण्डका अपराधीलाई प्रहरीले निकै राम्ररी जोगाएको देखिएको छ। प्रहरीले हत्या पछि भागेको गाडीलाई राति नै टेलिफोन गरी बग्गी खाना पुर्याउन लगाई हत्यामा संलग्न विनय डंगोल र उद्धवमान सिंहलाई प्रहरीले नै भगाएको स्थानीय बासिन्दाले आरोप लगाएका छन्। यता, विभत्स हत्या गरिएको स्थलमा रातारात प्रहरीले रानीपोखरीको पानी निकालेर सफा गरेको छ। हत्यास्थलको प्रमाण नष्ट गर्नुले प्रहरीले घटनालाई ढिसमिस गर्न चाहेको भन्दै स्थानीयबासिन्दा आक्रोसित बनेका छन्।

August 5, 2009 Posted by | Uncategorized | Leave a comment

अंग्रेजी नजानी America आउन हुन्छ ?


मेरो एक जना साथी छ। देशमा भन्दा विदेशमा गएर केही गरेर फर्कौँ भन्ने सोच छ उसको। एसएलसी पास छ। अंग्रेजी त्यति बोल्न आउँदैन। आजको कान्तिपुर दैनिकमा छापिएको एउटा विज्ञापन हेरेपछि ऊ अमेरिका जाने सपना देख्‍न थालेको छ। विज्ञापन रहेछ काठमाडौँ मुख्य कार्यालय रहेको एउटा एजुकेसनल कन्सलटेन्सीको। अमेरिकाको Virgina International University मा २, ३, ४ र ८ हप्ताका विभिन्न विषयमा सेमिनार, तालिम, वर्कसपमा सहभागी हुन इच्छुकहरुबाट आवेदन मागिएको रहेछ। यहाँ पोखरामा पनि एउटा सम्पर्क कार्यालय रहेछ। योग्यता तोकिएको छैन। TOEFL, IELTS पनि गर्नु पर्दैन रे। इंग्लिस नआए युनिभर्सिटी आफैले ट्रान्सलेटर राखिदिनेछ रे। त्यो विवरण पढेर मलाई अलि शंका लाग्यो। र, तपाईँहरुसित सुझाव माग्न यो लेखेको हुँ। तपाईँहरु जो अमेरिकामा हुनुहुन्छ, वा हुनसक्छ सोही युनिभर्सिटीमा पढिरहनुभएको छ. कृपया सल्लाह दिनुस्, मेरो साथीलाई। उसले के गर्दा ठीक होला ? अनि यो तालिम भनेको केको तालिम होला ?

July 13, 2009 Posted by | Uncategorized | Leave a comment

Seven Success Secrets of Hypnotism Practice


Hypnotism Practice

Many misconceptions about success persist in this work and hopefully I can help

you clear your mind so that you might maximize your effectiveness.

The first prerequisite for success is a four letter word: “W.O.R.K.” But hard work alone is not enough if you work without knowledge or without an awareness of what your efforts are producing. Everyone here is obviously willing and interested in doing the work and no one here believes that if you pray or chant enough affirmations that bags of money will fall from the sky in front of you.

#1

MAKING THE APPOINTMENT

The first session begins with the telephone call. All of you are educated enough not to use  terms such as “patient” or “cure” or “treatment”. We don’t have any patients and we don’t treat anyone. We are a hypnotism center – I am speaking to those of you who are not licensed in the healing arts.

This is a hypnotism center and we give self-hypnosis, group and private hypnosis

sessions. We use hypnosis as an educational process to help clients deal with certain

goals, problems and motivations. In the early part of my career, I did almost all of the phone answering. If you are beginning your career and you feel that you are too important to answer your phone and you let the office helper do it, you are losing business. Your office helper does not understand the nature of your work, even if it is someone close to you. You are the only one who fully understands what you do and your methods of operation. You should take

as many phone calls as you possibly can.

There will come a time when you will be too busy to answer the phone and you may have

to let someone else answer for you.

Your main concern is to turn the inquiry into an appointment for the first session. When they ask, “Can hypnosis help me with my problem?” I reply, “The first step is for you to come in for a session and in that time I will test you to determine your level of response. I will discuss your problems and goals and at the end of that time I will tell you if hypnosis is indicated for  you, how long it will take and what the cost of the program will be.”

# 2

THE INTAKE INTERVIEW

Once the client arrives I spend the first fifteen minutes allowing them to present their problem and completing the intake form. Then I say to them, “How can I help you today?” and they begin to tell me their problem.

If you learn the art of intense listening, you are likely to discover the problem in the first five minutes. During the intake interview I interact, I communicate, I ask questions, I clarify and I feed back. When you are using the process correctly, the client will come to know several things, in the first Fifteen minutes.

One: that you are not just hearing them, but you are listening and focusing your full

awareness and conscious attention upon them.

Two: they become aware that you are analyzing, interpreting and evaluating by the feed back that you give them … “I hear you saying,” or “I understand that,” or “it seems

as if,” then they can confirm, deny or correct. “Oh, I didn’t mean it that way, what I am really saying is…” or “Oh, yes, that’s right.”

Three: as they become aware that you are relating to them in a therapeutic process, your rapport is being developed in the non-hypnotic interview. They become convinced that you are interested in them and care about them, you devoted your full attention to them and that you are really a very wise person.

#3

THE PRE-HYPNOTIC INTERVIEW

The first question is, “Have you ever been hypnotized before today?” (implies that they are about to be hypnotized.) They will reply “Yes” or “No.”

If they answer “yes”, ask “Was it for therapeutic purposes or for entertainment, as in a night club?”

They may answer, “Well, a friend hired a hypnotist to entertain at a party and he hypnotized five or six others, but I didn’t go under.”

Ask for the details, say, “Will you tell me about your lack of response?”

“Well, we sat in chairs and he said everyone put your hands together, press them tightly together, and now they are stuck. Try to pull your hands apart,’ and I was the only one who did. So he dismissed me.”

Respond to that by saying, “It is difficult to relax enough to concentrate on those ideas in front of a group of people, especially if you are a little anxious that you might be

asked to do something silly.”

Suppose they say, “Oh, yes, I went up on the stage in a night club and the last thing

I remember is being told to try to pull my hands apart and the next thing I knew it was

an hour later. When I went back to my seat, they told me I sang, and danced and did funny things while on the stage.”

You now have additional information. You know they went into a deep trance easily. If they say it was for therapeutic purposes, again you ask, “Who was it?” and have them tell you all the details.

“Well, I went to the therapist and I felt like I was floating on a cloud.” Store that because when you hypnotize them, you will want to use it as feedback, “Now you are getting that feeling of floating on a cloud.” Take everything they say of a positive nature, about their previous hypnotic experience and feed it back to them. Why ask yourself, “What kind of

deepening techniques shall I use?” when they have already told you.

If they say to you, that they don’t remember very much of what went on in the therapist’s office, again you have similar input of information. The key question at this point is, “Was this beneficial to you. Did you get the results that you hoped for? – tell me about it.”

When they report positive results they have told you, “I had a belief in hypnosis and I tried it and it worked for me.

Therefore, here in this moment with you Mr. Hypnotist, I have a tremendously high

mental expectancy. My imagination is already excited. Don’t expend a lot of time on me doing all of those preparatory things, I’ve already told you my story. I went to a

hypnotist and got good results.”

Take one more step and say, “That is wonderful. Now, tell me, do you remember how you were hypnotized, what method was used, what can you tell me?” They will tell

you whether it was someone who believes in swinging a watch or using flashing lights or

just what the experience was, or you might ask

“Have you ever been hypnotized?”

They reply, “No, I have never made an effort to be hypnotized.”

“Have you ever seen anyone hypnotized?”

“Oh, yes. My friend was hypnotized on the stage, and – .

Now you have some input. “What did you think of all that?”

“I just could never understand how she could get up there and sing a song. I know her and she is quite shy. I could not figure out if she was faking it or what.”

This is an opportunity for re-education. You say, “The reason she was able to sing on stage, is that the critical factor of her conscious mind was temporarily closed down because she was in trance. The part of her mind that says, “you are making a fool of yourself, everyone is looking at you and you should feel embarrassed,” was silent.

Because she did not hear that voice within, she was able to do something that is quite

within the natural capacity of any human being, to sing a song or do a dance. It had nothing to do with her values, which includes her character attitudes, her religious

beliefs and her moral principles.”

They often reply, “Oh, I never thought of it that way. I just thought they would tell me that I would not normally do anything under hypnosis that I would not normally do and I would never normally get up in front of a crowd and sing a song.”

Now you have communicated and you are into the process of re-education.

When you ask, “Are you ready for me to hypnotize you?” you can get a great deal of information from their answer.

“Well, if you think you can?” or maybe, “O.K, good luck.” or “Yes, I hope so.” And sometimes they may say to you, “No – I’m not ready!”

“Alright, if you are not ready, tell me about it.”

“I did not come today to get hypnotized.

I think I will just talk to you.”

“That’s all right. You have reserved the time and we can spend the Lime talking and I am not going to hypnotize you until you tell me that you are ready for me to hypnotize you.”

They may say “No” just to test you to see what will happen and five minutes later they might say, “I am ready now… I was anxious before, but now I feel more relaxed.”

At this point, it is time to hypnotize this person using whatever methods that seem appropriate to you. Whatever methods you use on that first session, I suggest that after the induction of trance, you begin a relaxation process because you want to get the full discharge of accumulated tensions and make the First session the best session.

In the first session there is no attempt at therapy, at least, not in an observable way. Many clients have said, “I went deepest, the very first time.” What they mean is, “I had stored so many accumulated physical and emotional tensions that when I discharged them, I got rid of a tremendous load.”

# 4

TESTING THE SUBJECT

In the pre-hypnotic talk I ask, “Have you ever been hypnotized before?” The answer is usually “No.”

Then I ask, “Have you ever made an effort to be hypnotized before today?”

Often they say, “Yes, several times, but no one has ever hypnotized me.”

Then I ask, “was it for entertainment or therapy?”

They reply, “I had a problem that I wanted to deal with.”

“What kind of therapist was it that you went to?” (This is very important because you want to find out if it were their neighbor who is a certified public accountant and does hypnotism demonstrations as a hobby; or a psychologist or psychiatrist, whose hypnotism skills are of ten the same as the next door neighbors; or a trained hypnotherapist of experience and reputation in the community.)

“Tell me exactly what happened.”

“He talked to me for a while, then he said to sit in the reclining chair and close my eyes while he repeated, ‘You are getting drowsy and sleepy and you are going deeper and deeper into hypnosis.’ He did that for quite a while, but I never went to sleep and I heard every word.”

“Then what happened?”

“Well when I arrived home my husband asked me, ‘How did the hypnotism session go,’ and I said, ‘Well I am not sure.”‘

“What do you mean, you are not sure?

Did you get hypnotized?”

“I don’t think so!”

“You should know – were you hypnotized or not?”

“Well, I don’t think I was but the hypnotist said I was.”

“I don’t care what the hypnotist said, you should know. Did he lock your eyelids closed?”

“Nope!”

“Well then, you weren’t hypnotized.

How much did that cost you?”

“Fifty dollars.”

“You didn’t make another appointment, did you?”

“No!”

One of the measurements of your effectiveness is how many clients return after the first session. The first session is the one where they should be convinced and the rapport developed, so that the therapy is ready to begin.

It is costs you a certain amount of time, energy and money, to bring that client into your office. If you only get paid for a single session, I doubt if you can recover the amount that it cost you to get the client into the office.

Open the yellow pages for any large city and start calling the hypnotists’ listings. From thirty to fifty percent of those listed are out of business. This happens because they place their ad five or six months before the directory comes out, and less than a year from ordering the ad they are no longer in business. Clients fail to return because they were left with the feeling that they were not hypnotized. I met with a group of hypnotists at the Hilton Hotel in Baltimore and one of them said to me, “I really confuse them, when they walk out of my place they do not know if they have been hypnotized. I tell them that is part of the mental  confusion process.”

I thought to myself, “At least he has found a way to put a positive view on his ineffectiveness.” But, it still costs him money every day.

Over the years that I have been in this work and heard these many stories, the question arises, why are the hypnotists losing these clients. What is it that they are failing to do? They are failing to test the subject to bring to the conscious mind the realization of the trance state. They don’t test because they are afraid that the client will not respond in the way that the hypnotist believes appropriate and if they fail to respond, what will he do then?

Suppose he tells them that their eyelids are locked closed and they open them. He’s afraid that they will say “Hey, Charlie, you did not hypnotize me, you had better give me my money back.” That is not the way it works out, but that is the basis for the fear. You can’t be successful in any line of endeavor when you operate from a background of fear. You must always operate from a background of feelings of competence. You will experience emotional

and psychic burnout because your fear and anxiety will literally consume you.

#5

INDUCING THE TRANCE

Having completed the induction process and testing the subject, you are ready to take the next step. You are going to bring the conscious mind the realization of the trance state and you do that by giving three tests.

An arm levitation, up to the chest, the chin or the head, and as the arm is lifting, you compound it with the second test, saying, “As your arm is lifting, your eyes are locking

closed and when you hand touches your body, your eyelids will be locked so tightly

closed, the more you try to open them the tighter they are locking closed.”

At the same time, as the right arm is coming up, use the second suggestion: “As your right arm is lifting your left arm feels as though it is made of marble or stone or lead”. Don’t say that it IS made of stone, because it is not and you have to deal with what remains of a rational mind and you don’t know how much that rational mind is active. Use the subjunctive mood to state a condition contrary to fact which says, “your arm feels as if it is too heavy to lift.”

Use this wording: “Your eyes have locked so tightly closed, the more you try to open them, the tighter they are locking closed and at the same time, you arm feels as though it is made of marble, lead or stone, it feels as if it is far too heavy to lift.” This “rule of reversed mental effort” will generate a successful result in virtually every case. By contrast, in his book New Master Course in Hypnosis, (The New Master Course in Hypnosis, Harry Arons, Power Publishers, 1961), Harry Arons gives the wording for the arm catalepsy as follows:

Your arm is outstretched before you, stiff and rigid like a bar of steel. You are completely powerless to bend or lower it. In fact the harder you try the more impossible it is, because you are in hypnosis, you see, and implicitly obedient to my every command.

You simply cannot lower your arm until I SAY that you can! “What you are doing here is impressing forcibly upon the subject’s consciousness that he is indeed under you “hypnotic control” -else why can he not do something so simple as lowering his arm?

A suggestion may be made that a few minutes after awakening he would become aware of a terrible itching sensation in his back just between the shoulder blades, where it would be difficult to scratch.

“You will be very annoyed with this itching,” you continue, “and will go into all sorts of contortions to scratch this spot, even rubbing your back against the wall and against articles of furniture. But nothing will help. Finally, you will appeal for my help in the matter, because ONLY I will be able to relieve this itching. I will simply snap my fingers twice and the itching will disappear instantly. This will convince you beyond the shadow of a doubt that you are indeed under hypnosis.

This wording is guaranteed to produce a high percentage of failures because:

A. it openly challenges the subjects autonomy,

B. it tells the subject that he is “completely powerless”, “implicitly obedient to my every command”,

C. it mobilizes the subject’s “fear of losing control”,

D. it erodes the subject’s dignity: “You will go into all sorts of contortions to scratch this spot, even rubbing your back against the wall and on articles of furniture.”

E. the overwhelming authoritarian style and conflict structured wording generates feelings of defiance from the subject.

I urge you to avoid making these mistakes.

Now let’s return to the correct wording of these tests:

“Your left arm feels so heavy it feels AS IF it were far too heavy to lift, in fact even the very thought of trying to lift it seems to be more than you wish to deal with, at this time. You may, if you wish to, make an effort to lift your left arm. Now stop trying, relax and go deeper.”

Now we have done the arm levitation, the eye catalepsy and the heavy left arm tests. It is important to utilize all these tests so that you will get a response on at least

one of them. Any response to a single test is 100% success. You have now finished the

tests and you must explain their response.

You say, “The feeling that you felt, as your arm was lifting, that is the feeling of hypnosis. The feeling that you felt, as your eyelids seemed stuck, that is the feeling of hypnosis. The feeling that you felt as your left arm seemed so heavy, that is the feeling of hypnosis. I call these responses the feelings of hypnosis because you and I know that there is no rational reason for your right arm to feel lighter than your left. There is no rational reason for your  eyelids not to open instantly on the mere thought. There is no rational reason for your left arm to feel heavier than your right.

“In the hypnotic trance, the critical factor of the conscious mind is temporarily relaxed. This is the part of your mind which examines incoming ideas for their rational content. Since that part of your mind is relaxed because of trance, you don’t have any inhibitions about responding to irrational ideas; such as your right arm is lighter than your left; or your left arm is heavier than your right; or that your eyelids are stuck. Your mind is not asking a

question, or making a statement such as, ‘That’s silly, my right arm feels the same as my left arm because that is the way it should be. I could open my eyelids any Lime I choose.’  Because of this single change you are able to accept ideas that are different from your previous experience.

“You might consider your mind to be like a stereo system with speakers on either side. When I turn the balance control knob all the way to the left, the music will pour out of the left speaker and the right speaker will become silent. The speaker has not disappeared nor has the circuitry to the speaker disappeared, it is just temporarily passive or inactive. When I turn the  balance control knob the other way, the left speaker becomes passive and quiet, and the right

speaker is activated once again. “In the same way, one circuit, or one part of your mind, ‘the critical factor,’ is now temporarily relaxed, and this is the major change that occurs in the hypnotic state. This is what enables you to accept good, positive, beneficial and creative ideas that help you to do the very things that you have set out to do. in a moment, I am going to bring you up from this trance and when I do, you are going to have a much clearer  understanding of your trance state when you open your eyes.”

#6

PROGRAMMING FOR FUTURE SUCCESS

Be sure to give them these hypnotic suggestions. “You are going to have a much clearer understanding of the nature of hypnosis when you open your eyes. You will have a much clearer understanding than you ever had about the nature of your conscious and subconscious mind. You will understand that it is most likely you heard every word that I said, even when you were in your trance. You will understand that you were not asleep in the manner that you sleep at night; that you experienced a wonderful state of physical, mental and emotional

relaxation, or a sleep of your nervous system.”

You have two more things to do. The first one is to say; “Before I bring you up from hypnosis, is there anything further you want to say to me, ask me or tell me.” Give them the option to give you information. They might give any number of a variety of responses. Most times they will say “No.”

The second thing, done at the end of each session of therapy, is to say, “Quickly now, who do I remind you of”

You will get some very quick information about the projections they put on you. “You remind me of my father.”

“How am I like your father?”

“Well he was a good friend, he was very understanding” or “You remind me of a

minister,” or “a doctor,” or “a school teacher.”

I have had them say, “You remind me of a judge.”

“How am I like a judge?”

“Well, I think you are very understanding.”

Probably that person had an experience with a judge maybe when he was a juvenile and now he is more understanding. it means that I am an authority figure and I am linked to some authority figure out of their experience. The most unusual one was when I said to a lady, “Who do I remind you of?”

She replied, “You remind me of the devil.”

I said, “How am I like the devil?”

“Because the devil knows everything.”

I said, “Alright, I am going to count from ten down to one and we are going back to a time that has to do with ‘the devil knows everything”‘

In the intake portion of her session, every time I fed back to her (“I hear you saying…,” or “In other words…”), she would say, “Oh, my God, how did you figure that out?”

Finally, she said, “You seem to know all about me.” Now, she says that the devil knows everything.

In the age regression, she was less than four years old and the family lived in a little

house on the edge of town. Out behind the house was a small thicket of trees with a

stream running through it.

She loved to go back there to play, but something happened to change things – perhaps a child was molested, or some hobos were seen back there. One day, Mother said, “You are not to go back in the woods any more,” and when she asked, “Why Mommy?” she was told, “Because the devil is living back there now and you know the devil carries off bad little girls.” A few

days later she did something that Mother thought was naughty and Mother said, “If you don’t stop being so naughty, the devil is going to come right into this house, put you under his arm and carry you right out of here.” She asked, “Marna, if the devil is back there in the woods, how does he know that I am naughty up here in the house?” Her mother said, “The devil knows everything.” NEXT STEP: Terminate the trance.

“All right now, I am going to count from one to five and at the count of five your eyes are wide open, you are calm, rested, relaxed, fully aware and feel wonderfully good.” (See

the trance termination script.)

First thing I always say is, “Well, you kind of surprised yourself, didn’t you?”

There are only three answers they can give:

“Yes,” “No” or “What do you mean?”

Whatever their response, your answer is always the same: “Tell me about it.”

1. You say, “Kind of surprised yourself?”

“Yes.”

“Tell me about it.”

“Why, I really did not think I was hypnotized, but then I felt my arm jerking up and when I went to open my eyes they did not open. My left arm just felt like it was made of lead and I said, ‘Hey, wait a minute, I must be hypnotized?”‘

“You see, you got a conscious realization of the trance state. ”

2. “Kind of surprised yourself?”

“No. ”

“Tell me about it.”

“Well, I read in a book about how the arm came up and sure enough my arm came up, just as I figured it would.”

3. “Kind of surprised yourself didn’t you?”

“No.”

“Tell me about it.”

“Well, I thought if I were hypnotized I would not hear anything and I would feel like a zombie.”

Then ask, “What did you experience?”

“Oh, I just felt the relaxation and my arm coming up and my eyes sort of stuck but I heard a horn blow as a car went by outside.”

What you have done is to take them from the place of basic misunderstanding to a position of some understanding, and what you are doing is to send them home with one of two positions.

The first is, “Yes, I was hypnotized” or “I might have been, or, I’m just not quite sure.”

When they get home, the “significant other” says to them, “How did your session with the hypnotist go?”

They can say, “Oh great, I was hypnotized.”

“Tell me all about it.”

“Well, I lay there and had the funniest feeling, my arm rose up -. ”

“Oh great, made another appointment didn’t you?”

“Yeah, next week.”

Or they can say, “I don’t know if I was hypnotized or not.”

“What do you mean you don’t know, what happened?”

“I got feeling pretty relaxed, and he said your arm is going to come up and my arm came up. It was lifting, I don’t know if I was doing it, or what was happening and then he said try to open your eyes, and they did not open.” They have something to describe to the other interested person.

The other party will say, “You were hypnotized. I can tell you right now you

were hypnotized.”

If you have not been doing that and you now begin to do so, it will add up to ten thousand dollars a year to your income because your clients will return for that second session. They will go home with the imagination excited and they will tell everyone, “I was hypnotized,” and they will be back for more.

Now, what about your fears of being seen as an incompetent?

Do you think, “If they do pop their eyelids open, or don’t lift their arm, will they say, ‘He is a poor hypnotist’?”

If you are not getting good results with these tests, you should examine the phrasing or methodology that you are using. Perhaps you can talk to some other hypnotherapists

who are getting better results. Check your technique against theirs. The wording is so

important that in my courses I place great emphasis on it.

Every technique is given in full printed form, not just, “This is what you say,” but instructions to the hypnotist about what they do and say, a discussion about it and then actual practice of it in workshops, using the scripts.

I have spent 35 years testing and perfecting the effectiveness of these scripts. I know that they work and they work every time.

I want you to build a series of successful experiences while you are here because that is what you came to me for. To learn how to be an effective hypnotist and you can be most effective when you are generating a good income.

Let’s suppose you say, “Your eyelids are locked so tightly that the more you try to open them, the more tightly they are locking closed – now try to open them and find them locking tighter and tighter” and they open their eyes and smile at you!

Show no concern and say, “That’s fine, close them down.”

No matter what a subject does, except to become violent, you always say, “That’s fine.”

If they have a need to disappoint you, or work against you but you continually say “that’s fine” to all of their responses, they soon learn that they cannot disappoint you by not doing what you suggest. Soon, they will give up; if everything is always “just fine,” they will stop resisting. When the session is over, they may say, “Well I did open my eyes.”

Your reply is, “That’s right, please close your eyes, and open them again,” and they will open them.

Ask, “Is that the way you opened them a moment ago?”

“No, but I opened them.”

“Yes, but it took you several seconds.

The difference between the way you opened your eyes just now and the way you opened

your eyes a moment ago, was the degree of hypnotic suggestion that you had accepted at

that moment. Do you understand that clearly?”

Students, it is always the subject who is confused or misinformed – it is impossible

for you to fail because you have a great body of knowledge and skills, which you apply

creatively.

When the subjects response is not as I would like it to be it is their failure to respond appropriately. If their arm did not lift or their eyes did not lock and their left arm did not get heavy. I just say:

“I think we need to talk a moment about your unwillingness to respond. Just close

your eyes and think about it now and see if you can come up with a few reasons why

you are exhibiting this unwillingness.” I never use the word resistance, that is a

very poor word. if I tell them that they are capable of generating resistance, it is liable

to generate more resistance so I tell them it is their unwillingness to respond.

#7

GETTING PAID FOR YOUR SERVICES

Collecting your fees can be a great problem because there are several models for payment.

If you are in an institutional setting or clinic, billing is based on the old models of the physician and psychologist, and the client is billed monthly. No matter how few statements you have to send out it costs time and money. If you want to send out forty or fifty statements, you must invest in the forms, the ledger cards and the clerical labor to address them. All of these services add to your costs.

My question is, do you have clients who don’t keep an appointment? How many weeks did you have 24 appointments booked on Monday morning and you said, “I am going to have some income this week,” but at the end of the week twelve of the twenty four had not shown up.

I have been in the work for thirty years, and completed 40,000 hours of clinical hypnotherapy. I was always resentful when I looked at the end of the week and I had “no shows” before I adopted the principle I am about to explain to you.

Printed on your appointment card is the statement “Advance notice of a cancellation must be given at least 48 hours in advance or a charge will be made.” An hour before, or 10 minutes after the appointment time, the client calls and says, “I’m sorry I can’t make it.” About seventy per cent of them say, “My car is broken down,” or “There has been an accident on the freeway.” The other thirty per cent say, “My child is sick and I have to take her to the doctor.” Or “My husband took the car and he was supposed to be back but he is not back yet.”

Rarely do they tell you the real reason, such as, “I had an unexpected expense last week, I had to buy Jimmy football shoes, and they are $68.00, so I thought and thought how could I cut back on expenditures this week and save $50.00.”

They say. “My car is broken down”.

The first reality of this practice is, of those who do it to you once, seventy-five percent will do it to you twice and of those who do it to you twice, ninety-nine per cent will do it to you three times because that is their pattern of behavior.

The same principal applies when you send statements, you get down to a few who are always two to three months behind and your office manager says, “I thought you ought to see these three overdue accounts.”

You look at them and say, “Mary Jones owes me for three months! What is wrong with that woman? I knock myself out doing age regressions and twice I let her appointments run over time. Why is she so ungrateful that she is not paying me?”

Question: When Mary Jones walks in for her appointment and you are aware of her unpaid fees, do you have the quality of caring to do your best work with her?

What you really feel like doing is to say, “I work hard for you and give you the best service, but you don’t pay me the money and you don’t even try to explain why.” Instead you say, “That is not professional, so I won’t do that. ”

The very same thing applies with the no shows. After a client has missed two appointments, unless you are booked months ahead, it is unlikely you will charge them the cancellation fee. You will say, “This was the first time so I will let it go.”

The second time you say, “It is not really fair to charge money for something they did not get, besides I could use that time to work on my books.” But when they walk in the office, you are going to have a resentful feeling that will interfere with the maximum effectiveness of your therapy.

I am suggesting there are many, many reasons that you alter your methods for collecting money, and one way to do that is by selling a block of time.

June 20, 2009 Posted by | Uncategorized | Leave a comment

कुन राशिलाई कस्तो रंगको घर


June 15, 2009 Posted by | Uncategorized | Leave a comment

Air France Plane Disappeared


Plane of Air France disappeared yesterday while it took off from capital of Brazil to Paris. It was carrying 228 passengers including 12 Pilot officers. The signal with the plane was lost at local time 6 am. Air Bus A 330 named jet might fall in Atlantic Ocean due to accident; said officials but Air France told that due to thundering the plane might have crashed and fall down. The Brazilian and French: Army Aircraft are searching for the lost plane.
If 228 passengers have died in this accident than after 2001 it would be the first accident of any plane where such a big amount of passengers died. In 2001 a American airlines was crashed where 265 passengers died.

June 3, 2009 Posted by | Uncategorized | Leave a comment

The Stilt Fishermen of Sri Lanka


One of the most iconic scenes your bound to see in Sri Lanka is stilt fishing.
An old tradition around Sri Lanka, stilt fishing had disappeared after the devastating tsunami that hit the country and other parts of the Indian Ocean, but soon the people returned to their customs, and now you can spot them sitting on their uncomfortable stilts, hoping to catch something.


Though they may be beautiful to look at, stilt fishermen have it rough. They spend hours sitting on a thin plank, hoping to catch one or two fish about 5 cm-long, that they sell for about 2 cents each. The rough waves keep the big fish away, so they sometimes have to settle for te smallest catch. But it’s a small price to pay in order to preserve centuries-old traditions.

May 28, 2009 Posted by | Uncategorized | Leave a comment

Women in Massage


Sunita Lama (name changed) from Handikhola, Makawanpur lost her mother since childhood. It was only her father who could have cared for her but instead because of his own selfishness he remarried and Sunita’s life became hard because of her step mother. Initially she accepted all the tortures but after being unable to bear her situation she left home and lived at her sister-in-law’s house.

It is said, “Where there is flaw there is a loss”. Sunita faced many trials in her life. Her guardian, sister-in-law was killed by Nepal Army accusing her as a Maoist messenger and because of this she became hopeless. She didn’t have any option as to what to do and where to go. She asked her friends for shelter and food and then came to Katmandu and ended at a massage center. Now she is not worried about food and shelter but worries about her life as her life is ruined. She says “Whatever customers ask we need to do and for some we need to give our whole body too”. If I leave this job, I don’t have any other profession. So I must stay here as I don’t have other alternatives.”

Another one is Anu Chhetry (name changed) from Sindhupolchowk. Her story is full of sorrow more than Sunita. Her father got second marriage while their family was running normally. After marriage; her father started to hate the children of his first wife. As being the eldest daughter, it became her responsibility to feed he r mother and brothers. Then she came to Kathmandu in search for work, but could not get descent job so she started working at a massage centre and started her massage parlor journey. Now she is desperate and worries about her future. She says “I have never thought parlor’s job will be like that. If I knew I would have never come in this field.”

Sunita was happy while she got the job the first time because she didn’t know what type of job it was. She didn’t know that such a hateful work was involved. She knew all these later. Sunita said, “Whatever customers say we must do otherwise they beat us. Some who don’t obey need to face torture also.” In the beginning she cried alone because she can’t bear these activities. Once she decided to leave the job also. But she accepted, thinking as her fate because she neither has home nor relatives. She said, “There were no alternatives for me because I could not do anything so I accepted that profession. I am living my life with grief.” This is the story of most of the girls who work at massage center. “It is our compulsion to do such work because we don’t have any other knowledge” said Anu who has entered this profession since she was eleven years old.

Most people don’t know what takes place inside massage parlors. But slowly it is coming out. It is heard now days that there sexual activities take place inside parlors so workers are worried about their life and profession. They are worrying about their future. Sunita said, “There should be massage only. They should not get any benefits by the innocence of village girls.” But who understands our grief? “What could happen now while there is democracy? There is no hope of living after returning to the village. Sitting here in the city, the government does not do anything for us,” Anu said in her sorrowful voice. “There is peace in the country but we don’t have that.”

Massage owners and customers torture us and sometimes the police even do the same. One lady worker at a massage center said “Police arrest us, accusing us for sexual activities and sometime they try to rape us themselves and if we don’t agree then they arrest us.” But police officer Mira Chaudhary denied this accusations and said “They only blamed us and they never reported about the wrong activities inside the parlors. They never came to register their case against the massage owners. If they have come then we can take action against the massage parlors.”

Sexual activities in massage centers are seen to be normal. Most customers of massage centers are male more than female. They go for massage but their actual intention is to get physical contact with female workers. One of the massage centre operator of Thamel openly said “The landlord charges more rent for massage centers and so to pay those rent we need to do such activities.” We will not do such activities if the government makes rules and regulations for us to operate massage centers.” She has realized that if government makes regulations then there will be no more wrong activities in massage centers and house rent will also be cheaper.
Massage centre workers only get one fourth of their salary and they never get in time; rest of the amount are taken by the owners. One worker said “They take their earnings so we could not pay our house rent on time.”

According to an NGO Researcher, Raksha Nepal, there are more than three hundred massage centers and five hundred women working. And most of them are between the ages of 12 to 25 years. Most of the centers are operated illegally and the government has not taken any action. According to the NGO, police sometimes follow up but they also work for money.

Raksha Nepal who has been working for massage center workers started vocational trainings for them. Menuka Thapa, President of that organization said, “We have trained 35 women so far. If we can organize all the massage centers, several women can get a job. This profession is not bad but there should be a good working environment.”

It is possible that HIV/ AIDS can infect the workers because of sexual activities inside massage centers. The workers are hated and they are even tortured by the society mentally and physically by the police. In this situation the government has a responsibility to organize these massage centers. If this happens then workers won’t be hated and can live with respectful lives in the society.

And the question is raised, is this not the time to think for the government to organize and manage massage centers?

May 27, 2009 Posted by | Uncategorized | Leave a comment

Chanakya Niti Shastra – Fifteen


HAPTER FIFTEEN

1. For one whose heart melts with compassion for all creatures; what is the necessity of knowledge, liberation, matted hair on the head, and smearing the body with ashes?
2. There is no treasure on earth the gift of which will cancel the debt a disciple owes his guru for having taught him even a single letter (that leads to Krsna consciousness).
3. There are two ways to get rid of thorns and wicked persons; using footwear in the first place and in the second shaming them so that they cannot raise their faces again thus keeping them at a distance.
4. He who wears unclean garments, has dirty teeth, is a glutton, speaks unkindly and sleeps after sunrise — although he may be the greatest personality — will lose the favour of Lakshmi.
5. He who loses his money is forsaken by his friends, his wife, his servants and his relations; yet when he regains his riches those who have forsaken him come back to him. Hence wealth is certainly the best of relations.
6. Sinfully acquired wealth may remain for ten years; in the eleventh year it disappears with even the original stock.
7. A bad action committed by a great man is not censured (as there is none that can reproach him), and a good action performed by a low-class man comes to be condemned (because none respects him). Just see: the drinking of nectar is excellent, but it became the cause of Rahu’s demise; and the drinking of poison is harmful, but when Lord Shiva (who is exalted) drank it, it became an ornament to his neck (nila-kantha).
8. A true meal is that which consists of the remnants left after a brahmana’s meal. Love, which is shown to others, is true love not that which is cherished for one’s own self. To abstain from sin is true wisdom. That is an act of charity, which is performed without ostentation.
9. For want of discernment the most precious jewels lie in the dust at the feet of men while bits of glass are worn on their heads. But we should not imagine that the gems have sunk in value, and the bits of glass have risen in importance.
When a person of critical judgment shall appear, each will be given its right position.
10.Sastric (scriptural) knowledge is unlimited, and the arts to be learned are  many; the time we have is short, and our opportunities to learn are beset with obstacles. Therefore select for learning that which is most important, just as the swan drinks only the milk in water.
11.He is a chandala who eats his dinner without entertaining the stranger who has come to his house quite accidentally, having traveled from a long distance and is wearied.
12.One may know the four Vedas and the Dharma-sastras, yet if he has no realization of his own spiritual self, he can be said to be like the ladle (spoon) which stirs all kinds of foods but knows not the taste of any.
13.Those blessed souls are certainly elevated who, while crossing the ocean of life, take shelter of a genuine brahmana, who is likened unto a boat. They are unlike passengers aboard an ordinary ship that runs the risk of sinking.
14.The moon, who is the abode of nectar and the presiding deity of all medicines, although immortal like amrta and resplendent in form, loses the brilliance of his rays when he repairs to the abode of the sun (day time). Therefore, will not an ordinary man be made to feel inferior by going to live at the house of another?
15.This humble bee, which always resides among the soft petals of the lotus and drinks abundantly its sweet nectar, is now feasting on the flower of the ordinary kutaja. Being in a strange country where the lotuses do not exist, he is considering the pollen of the kutaja to be nice.
16.(Lord Visnu asked His spouse Lakshmi why She did not care to live in the house of a brahmana. She replied 🙂 “O Lord a
rishi named Agastya drank up My father (the ocean) in anger; Brighu Muni kicked You; brahmanas pride themselves on their learning having sought the favour of My competitor Sarasvati; and lastly they pluck each day the lotus which is My abode, and therewith worship Lord Shiva. Therefore, O Lord, I fear to dwell with a brahmana”.
17.There are many ways of binding by which one can be dominated and controlled in this world, but the bond of affection is the strongest. For example, take the case of the humble bee, which, although expert at piercing hardened wood, becomes caught in the embrace of its beloved flowers (as the petals close at dusk).
18.Although sandalwood is cut, it does not forsake its natural quality of fragrance; so also the elephant does not give up sportiveness though he should grow old. The sugarcane does not cease to be sweet though squeezed in a mill; so the man of noble extraction does not lose his lofty qualities, no matter how pinched he is by poverty.

May 24, 2009 Posted by | Uncategorized | Leave a comment

२० लाख नेपाली विदेशमा, महिला मात्रै ७८ हजार


विदेशमा कति नेपाली रोजगारीका लागि गएका छन् ? यसको यकिन तथ्याङ्क पाउन गार्‍हो छ। किनभने सबै रोजगारीका लागि नै भनेर विदेश गएका हुँदैनन्। अनि सबैको बारेमा सरकारलाई थाहा पनि हुँदैन। तर पनि श्रम मन्त्रालयका अनुसार कानुनी तथा गैरकानुनी रूपमा करिब २० लाख नेपाली कामदार वैदेशिक रोजगारीका लागि तेस्रो मुलुकमा पुगेका छन्। त्यसमध्ये महिलाको संख्या कति छ त ? युनिफेम र निडसले गरेको एक अध्ययन प्रतिवेदन अनुसार करिब ७८ हजार नेपाली महिला वैदेशिक रोजगारीमा गएका छन्।
यसरी जानेहरूमध्ये सबैभन्दा बढी भारतीय बाटो भएर जानेहरूको सङ्ख्या धेरै छ।

वैदेशिक रोजगार विभागले सार्वजनिक गरेको एक तथ्याङ्क अनुसार हाल नौ लाख ६३ हजार ७०८ नेपाली वैदेशिक रोजगारमा भारत बाहेकका देशमा गएका छन्।

सन् २००७ मा वैदेशिक रोजगारबाट करिब रु. एक खरब दुई अर्ब ४० करोड विप्रेषण (रेमिट्यान्स) औपचारिक रूपमा नेपाल भित्रिएको विश्व बैङ्कको अनुमान छ।

यस्तो विप्रेषण (रेमिट्यान्स) ले नेपालको कूल गार्हस्थ्य उत्पादनको १८ प्रतिशत योगदान दिएको छ। यो विप्रेषणमा नेपाली महिलाहरूको योगदान करिब ११ प्रतिशत रहेको छ।

द्वन्द्वले सङ्कटग्रस्त बनेको नेपाली अर्थतन्त्रको दशौं योजनाको अवधिमा गरिबी करिब ११ प्रतिशतले घटेको छ।

आर्थिक विश्लेषणहरूका अनुसार व्रि्रेषणका कारणले यस अवधिमा गरिबी घट्न गएको हो। यस अवधिमा प्रति घरपरिवारले प्राप्त गर्ने औषत विप्रेषण रु. १५ हजार १६० बाट बढेर ३४ हजार ६८८ पुगेको छ।

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